Lately, I have been binge-watching Theresa Caputo, she is a medium, and in her short shared clips there is one word that comes up from time to time and that is responsibility. Passed loved ones use her voice to tell their relatives that they take responsibility after departing life. One must raise the question how about taking responsibility in an actual earthly lifetime? Validating how the passed loved ones are still connected and more responsible brings a sense of joy to the ones, who are still ‘writing’ their stories.
What are my responsibilities?
When you understand that life exists between unknowns if you like and has a moment or phase of death you gain more momentum and content around the meaning of life. Your life!
People, whom I have been meeting through my mental health support work and practice often were close to or had episodes of being close to death when first I got in touch with them. One of them has been learning to live with death, my penfriend on death- row. Even on death row, you can still have or further develop a sense of meaningful existence and the sense of belonging to you. And you do this by taking responsibility.
Edited story
It starts with your being and not what you are doing. I like to share a story that I lived, with you. Imagine that you set off for shopping you have got your bag and wallet and are ready to go. You get to the supermarket step in and it looks familiar and is busy as you walk in your senses are more and more stimulated by the colours, smells, and sounds. And that is when you hear a baby’s emotional cry. And slowly you start to get triggered, become judgemental and the noise becomes a distraction. You realize that you are annoyed. You see the baby being ignored by her caregiver. You judge, and start to think of solutions to stop this nightmare hysteria. You could walk over and try to interact with the baby with the aim of distracting her from crying or suggest something to her mother and share your wisdom on parenting.
Or you can check in with your reactive systems and start practising breathwork. Inhale deeply and exhale all the way out. One more time regulate and integrate your somatic systems and carry on shopping more calmly. Being more aware of that that the baby’s cry is a reminder of the well-accumulated past events and your present moment is different from those past multiplied moments. In the present, you can rewrite and edit your story with a simple and effective breathing integrative exercise.
You might think that the journey of life is all about doing the ‘to-do list’, duties, chores, etc. While we have to create, and it is something to do with doing you are much better off being and noticing how the information energy flow wanders in you or the opposite gets stuck in you. Your physical being is intertwined with your mental being, when you feel a physical ache question your mental being about the pain. The mind knows what causes it. It goes back to a certain already lived story and the body knows about it, and stores it for mainly survival future story sake.
The 8 aspects of the journey of Joy
Choose…to remember when you moved from joy! What creative energy you have had and how did it move you? Take responsibility, and really do choose this energy, set your intention for it on a daily basis, and create spaciousness in your mental and physical world.
The 8 aspects of the journey of Joy are
Perspective | Humility | Humour | Acceptance | Forgiveness | Gratitude | Compassion | Generosity |
Choose to be responsible and practice these, by not suppressing your emotional reactions and responses you will empower the emotions such as joy that empowers the positive self-view.
Remember that it all starts with – I – I see I | I forgive I etc. and when you do that you will show up differently therefore you will increase the bank (space) of responsibility. Next time you will be less triggered for example when the baby cries (a piece of good advice from my adult self to my younger self). You will have more flawless energy.
I wish you well on your healing and joyous journey