The story that we can all relate to
Scrooge has been taken on an adventure by the ghostly sense of past, present and future. His unresolved mental and physical trauma points created a bitter sad present. And from there, an even sadder future is predicted for him.
Despite the seemingly obvious narrative I picked on the not-so-obvious one. And that is how easily Scrooge takes offence and every reminder stimuli in people, a dog or certain objects remind his body and mind of the lived and relived disruption of his nervous system.
He has been creating multiple of evidence that him-self is not lovable. He learnt this very early on in his life when he had to take care of his sickly sister while his father sat in prison. Scrooge’s story is not an isolated story many of us can relate to it. Our bodies and minds also find reminders from his story to validate mine or yours etc. story.
He is forced to go on a journey and he cannot control it. The visitors take him through his life and potential life journey. And he learns to edit the narrative and he shows remorse when he realizes that his behaviour might result in another loss. Scrooge pleads not for himself but for Tiny Tim’s health and well-being. He realizes the truth that with his power and resources he can make an impact. He can help others to realize and fulfil their own truth and dreams.
What is the viewpoint?
Scrooge’s story is a classic Christmas story showing us what it can be. If Scrooge’s former boss didn’t care about Scrooge’s well-being from the other side. His unresolved traumatic experiences would have formed and shaped his present therefore his future. He wouldn’t have turned things around he would have lived a lifeless life without curiosity and love.
I ear and eye witness and observe that more and more people are taking offence nowadays. A certain narrative is being created at the macro (collective) level that already exists at a micro (individual) that tries to normalize that ‘Scrooge’s hurt’ is the ‘Past ghost’s’, the dog’s and Tiny Tim’s etc. responsibility.
It is so vital that we understand the basics of somatic experiencing so we can learn to take responsibility. I may remind you of your past somatic experiences but I am not responsible for your neuro-psycho-biological experiences.
Have a happy Christmas
Let me share an example of a social and conversational-based relational situation when one took an offence because what was said was received and taken as offensive. No swearing words were passed but the context was triggering enough so the conversation was about to escalate.
When this happens pause and observe what is happening in your body. If you can take yourself out of the situation and observe the energetic motion in your body. A mix of emotions might show up observe them and don’t hold to them. Breathe, inhale deeper to your belly and exhale all the way out. (Please take care and responsibility when you apply this practice. For further advice reach out to me.)
It is a quick remedy under a reasonably civilized circumstance and with it, you will be able to take a responsibility for your reactive nervous system. In this way, you will not suppress the truth and will be able to navigate the emotions around it freely.
I wish that you stay integrated, regulated and connected to your truth during the upcoming festive days.
Wishing you well on your healing journey