I catch myself more often or not in the now when my mind wants to tell a story and in it, I run or listen to my self-talk. But whose talk is it? Sometimes my younger self shows up and talks about her fear and talks from fear because something in the present moment happened to resemble or resonate. We often say you can’t make this s*** up the answer is yes you can!
So what can one do as it happens?
I have been learning about purposes. The external purpose is when you are setting your goals and outlooks on the future. And your inner purpose is when you become a watcher and observer of the emotions in your body. When you simply are. The watcher (you) observes the information energy flow in oneself (your) body and not making an attachment to it.
How many times do you check in with your somatic experiencing with your energy frequency and see where you are at and meet where you are at? How do certain things show up in your body? Turning the attention onto your embodied self, places the now into a focal point. You don’t get the now moments twice. You get it once and we often miss it as we are not connected to our inner purpose to be.
This is where the body grounding exercises can help, to bring you back to your somatic experiencing and allow yourself to be in the body rather than outside of it. For example when we don’t know what is going on when we speak fast and don’t breathe properly. When we rush and take fast steps often like we want to get out of the body. When we get triggered and want to scream or we do actually raise our voice at someone.
The only way is through
When the story brings up shame, guilt, embarrassment, sadness, grief, upset, and mental and physical pain. No one wants to relive it, resee it and reexperience it. No one wants to be in it again. Often the assumption is made that ‘I will lose my mind and turn insane’. The truth is that you don’t allow your body and mind to heal from what is being stored and accumulated throughout time. This ‘insane assumption will turn you insane or allow losing your mind’ or lose your cool etc.
Wim Hof but not just him many trauma-informed therapists, holistic practitioners and yoga instructors etc. teach about the benefit of effective breathing techniques. The breathing exercises are not designed only for the studio and online platforms’ spaces.
Once you learn these exercises learn to build on them, lean into them and incorporate them into your everyday life. This is one way to attune with your body, integrate your nervous and brain systems and by doing so create more harmony within.
Breathe in and out
Feel in sync with yourself, it takes a simple and effective method that is not complicated. The complication is in the narrative and if you ‘overplay’ it your body eventually, will develop a physiological set of signals-patterns. The body knows what you lived through so is no point to suppress or deny it. Confirm and acknowledge it, the pain is there the hurt is there and it is what it is…the only way is through to include this injured part and not to exclude it.
I truly believe that medicine is within us. We are inter-and intraconnected human beings. Just like the energetic field, the mind can emerge from and prompt the biochemical release into the body. Once we understand these concepts we understand that without caring for your being and the environment that your being is living in, there is nothing more worth living than that.
I can help you to turn hurt into compassion. I can, can you?
Wishing you well on your healing journey